I believe it was Hemingway who said, “Write drunk. Edit sober.” Allow me to give a disclaimer and say that I am only following the first piece of that advice at the moment. I am saying this to myself a few months ago, my own imagination five minutes ago, and a lot of the rest of you who well… you’ll know if this applies.
1) If you’re in a relationship and you don’t feel pursued? You probably aren’t. It probably isn’t the best thing out there for you and you should move on. You know those friends of yours that you are like, “but what you have is AHHHHMMAAAAZZZING!!! you guys are different!” NO. NO NO NO. I call bullshit on you telling them that their relationship is the exception and not the rule. The only reason you believe that is because you haven’t had it yet. And the reason you haven’t had it yet is, quite seriously, because you haven’t demanded it of others in the way that they treat you and in the way that you treat yourself. Truth, yo.
2) Posting, reposting, memorizing, and following 89,392 quotes about love/relationships/how you deserve to be treated on Tumblr, Twitter, Pinterest, and God-Help-Us-All whatever other sites are out there… That does NOTHING in terms of getting you a real, satisfying relationship. The bottom line, dear ones, is that the issue? It’s you. Because if it wasn’t you (and me) then we wouldn’t have allowed these relationships to be as shitty as they were. If the problem isn’t you then when someone did something really fucked up you know what you would do? You’d look at them and say, “Hey buddy! Yeah, you over there with the wandering eye/non comital catch phrase/penchant for late night booty calls but no brunch the next day… I see you. I see what you’re doing and GUESS WHAT?! I’m better than that. So I’m going to pass you off to someone who I hope to God learns the lessons I’ve learned and demands more before you’ve had a chance to play out this whole set of scenes once again.” Or something like that.
3) You’re worth it. I’m worth it. My best friends who I’ve seen tossed in the damn mud. We are all flipping worth it. Be honest. Don’t apologize to the world for what you want in it or out of it. If you want a relationship - OWN IT. You want to screw some guy you met on the airplane - OWN IT (safely, please). Just don’t accept less than everything from anyone. Your soul is rooting for you (thanks, to an excellent friend for that one, hopefully I’m borrowing with permission on that one). So now that you know that you’re worth it?! GO ACT LIKE IT.